Sayyiduna A’mash رَحْمَةُ اللهِ تَعَالٰی عَلَيْه has narrated: While present in a gathering in the morning, Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah Ibn Mas’ood رَضِىَ اللهُ تَعَالٰی عَـنْهُ said, ‘I urge the relations-severing person in the name of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ to leave our gathering so that we will seek forgiveness from Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ because the doors of the sky are closed for the relations-severing person (i.e. if he stays here, mercy will not descend, preventing our prayer from being answered).

(Al-Mu’jam-ul-Kabeer, vol. 9, pp. 158, Raqm 8793)

Make peace with disgruntled relatives

Dear Islamic brothers! The foregoing blessed Hadees contains a great deal of admonition for those falling out with their sisters, daughters, paternal and maternal aunts, uncles and nephews, etc on trivial matters. If any of your relatives has fallen out with you, so it is my Madani request that you should be the first to get reconciled with him even if he is at fault. Contact him and meet him with a smiling face, restoring the ruptured relations.

If anyone finds out any quarrel with any relative, they should immediately make efforts for reconciliation provided there is no Shar’i prohibition. Even if you have to demean yourself, do it for the pleasure of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ. You will reach heights of respect, اِنْ شَــآءَالـلّٰـه عَزَّوَجَلَّ. The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ تَعَالٰى عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم has said: ‘مَنۡ تَوَاضَعَ لِلّٰهِ رَفَعَهُ اللّٰهُ’ One who shows humility for Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ is granted loftiness by Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ. (Shu’ab-ul-Iman, vol. 6, pp. 276, Hadees 8140)

Sayyiduna Faqih Abul Lays Samarqandi عَـلَيْهِ رَحْـمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ الۡـقَـوِی has stated: There are ten virtues of treating relatives with kindness: (1) It brings about the pleasure of Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ. (2) It pleases people. (3) It delights angels. (4) It earns you praise from Muslims. (5) It upsets Satan. (6) It increases age. (7) It brings blessings in sustenance. (8) It pleases the deceased forefathers (i.e. the Muslim father and grandfather). (9) It fosters harmony. (10) It increases reward after demise because people make Du’a for such a person.

(Tanbih-ul-Ghafileen, pp. 73)