Treating your Mahram relatives well does not mean that if they are good with you, only then you be good with them. This is actually called giving in return, where you give them something because they gave something to you or you go to their house because they came to yours. In reality, treating relatives well means to keep ties with them even though they want to cut ties off; they want to distance themselves from you, are careless towards you but you show leniency to them with regards to the rights of their relationship. (Rad-ul-Muhtar, vol. 9, pp. 678)

صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب                 صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد

Method of thinking good of others

Dear Islamic sisters! The above-mentioned 6 rulings are worthy of great attention, especially the 6^th ruling where ‘giving in return’ has been mentioned. Nowadays, we see this happening a lot. If a relative invites someone to her wedding, only then will she invite her, otherwise she won’t invite her either. If she has invited more people from her family and she in return invites less people from her family, then this will not be taken lightly and a lot of criticism and backbiting will take place. Unfortunately, because we are far away from the knowledge of Deen, this environment has become so common that even when giving and taking, people adopt the same mentality that whatever she gives us, we will give the same amount to her. Some foolish Islamic sisters even do not go to console the Islamic sisters whose relative has died, do not attend the happy or sad events of their real brothers and sisters.

Similarly, if relatives do not invite someone to an occasion, then she will boycott them and like this, they fall further apart from one another. Whereas, if any Islamic sister does not attend an occasion, many positive aspects can be taken for her. For example, perhaps she was ill, perhaps she forgot, perhaps something important came up or perhaps she was helpless and it was difficult for her to explain it, etc. Whether she tells the reason of her absence or not, we should think good of her to earn reward and gather good deeds that will help us to enter paradise. The Holy Prophet صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم