Book Name:Qiyamat Ki Alamaat
mother is such a personality that when she is around, the home is full of blessings and when she is absent, the home seems vacant despite many other joys that are present in the house.
So, serve your mother! Please your mother! Do not bring any pain to your mother! Do not make your mother sorrowful! Do not quarrel with your mother! Do not raise your voice when speaking to your mother! Value your mother! If your mother and father or any one of them becomes upset with you, then make amends with them immediately! Remember, no matter how the mother is, she is still your mother after all. It is not possible to free yourself from the rights of your mother.
He carried his mother on his shoulders on hot stones for six miles…
One companion رَضِىَ الـلّٰـهُ عَـنْهُ once asked in the court of the Beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم: ‘There was a path which had such hot stones that if a piece of meat was to be placed upon them, it would get cooked, and I carried my mother on my shoulders for six miles (approx. 9.656 km); have I fulfilled the rights of my mother?’
The Beloved Prophet صَلَّى الـلّٰـهُ عَلَيْهِ وَاٰلِهٖ وَسَلَّم replied: ‘Perhaps this suffices for one of the painful contractions that she experienced when giving birth to you.’’ (Mu’jam Sagheer, vol. 1, p. 92, Hadees 257)
Dear Islamic brothers! From this narration we learn that parents, and especially the mother, should always be treated kindly and that the mother should always be obeyed. But remember! Parents will not be obeyed in sinful matters. For example, if they prevent you from offering Salah or tell you to shave your beard, then they will not be obeyed in these matters. It is stated in a blessed Hadees:
لَاطَاعَۃَ لِاَحَدٍ فِی مَعْصِیَۃِ اللّٰہِ اِنَّمَا الطَّاعَۃُ فِی الْمَعْرُوْفِ, i.e. It is not permissible to obey someone if it entails the disobedience of Allah Almighty; obedience is only in good deeds. (Bukhari, vol. 4, p. 492, Hadees 7257)