nor shall they grieve. To speak kind words (to a beggar) and to forgive (his pestering) is better than that charity which is followed by causing anguish.^[1]

Explaining these verses, Ꜥallāmah ꜤAlā al-Dīn ꜤAli b. Muḥammad رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه writes in Tafsīr Khāzin:

The expressing of favour (as mentioned in the verses previously) describes the situation in which one person gives to another, but the giver then goes on to inform others of this; (This includes statements such as:) “I have given you this much”, or “Look how well I treated you.” To sadden someone in this way is referred to as ”boasting of their favour”, whilst “taunting” refers to making them feel ashamed.

A further example of statements that convey these sentiments are, “You were hopeless, but it was me who helped you; you were at your lowest but I saved you”, etc.

If the asker is not given anything, they should be declined in a polite manner and with courtesous wording. If the asker insists or verbally reacts harshly, this should be overlooked (doing this is better than giving charity but reminding of your favour thereafter).^[2]

Respect of a Muslim

Dear Islamic brothers! Consider the following point very carefully. Islam has prescribed great importance to the act of respecting Muslims. None should hurt the feelings of their Muslim brother by deliberately reminding them of a financial favour, or taunting them. A Muslim’s honour and self-respect must always be kept in mind.