Book Name:Dil Joi Kay Fazail
May Allah عَزَّوَجَلَّ grant us the taufeeq to continuously please Muslims whilst remaining within the boundaries of Shari’ah. اٰمِیْن بِجَاہِ النَّبِیِّ الْاَمِیْن صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد
Dear Islamic sisters! It is important to have one thing within you to please the Islamic sisters, and that is ‘softness’. The importance of softness when wanting to please others can be realised from the fact that pleasing others without softness could result in ‘hurting one’s feelings’. Therefore, it is very important for the Islamic sister pleasing others to be soft-natured, to have a soft tongue, to be soft-mannered and use soft methods. The fundamental aim of pleasing others is so that people could become happy, whereas methods that are not soft could make people angry and unhappy. Remember! Having a soft tongue does not cost anything but the benefit of this is great, whereas using harsh and severe words is very damaging.
Know this that if an Islamic sister adopts softness, she becomes the apple of everyone’s eyes. Pious people of Allah Almighty are also loved for the fact that their blessed character, habits and methods were moulded in softness. Therefore, if we want to carry out and increase Madani activities of Dawat-e-Islami, the Madani movement of devotees of the Holy Prophet, if we want to increase attendance of Islamic sisters in Sunnah inspiring Ijtimas then we should adopt softness in our nature and firmly hold on to the Madani environment of Dawat-e-Islami to develop a habit of being soft.
صَلُّوۡا عَلَى الۡحَبِيۡب صَلَّى اللّٰهُ عَلٰى مُحَمَّد
۔1When meeting Islamic sisters or Mahrams, it is Sunnah to say Salaam to them.
۔2Here is a summary of a passage from page 102, volume 16 of Bahar-e-Shari’at, published by Maktaba-tul-Madinah: ‘The intention in the heart