Rights of the Husband
Faisal Yunus
(Dawrah Hadith Jamia tul Madina, Faizan e Madina Johar Town, Lahore)
Nowadays, it is common for husband and wife to argue over small issues. When there is discord between two people who aim to spend the rest of their lives together, the consequences can be serious. This disunity destroys any chance of peace in this world, and in certain cases, it can lead to destruction in relation to one’s faith and the hereafter. This negativity not only affects the husband and wife, but it also impacts their children and relatives. The main cause of this disharmony is not knowing each other’s rights. When the wife does not honour and respect the husband, fights occur over the most insignificant issues. It is necessary for women to fulfil the rights of their husbands and not incur the wrath of Allah by displeasing them, as this is a cause of loss in both worlds.
The Quran states, “Men are guardians for women as Allah has granted excellence to some over others among them, and because men spend from their wealth on women. So righteous women are obedient, protectors, in the absence of husbands, with the protection of Allah.”[1] It is written in Tafsīr al-Ṭabarī, “Men are guardians for women in the sense of teaching them etiquettes and reminding them about the rights of Allah and the rights of their husbands.”[2]
In this regard, note the following four Hadith on the rights of a husband:
1. A woman is a guardian over the house and family
You are all custodians, and you will be asked about your subordinates. A woman is a guardian over her husband’s home and children.[3]
2. Necessary to obey the husband
If a husband calls his wife to bed and she refuses, causing him to sleep displeased, the angels will curse her until the morning.[4]
3. Respecting the husband
If I were to command a person to prostrate to someone, I would command a woman to prostrate to her husband.[5]
ꜤAllāmah ꜤAlī Qārī رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه states:
A husband has many rights over his wife, and a woman is incapable of thanking him for all his favours. This statement is an exaggeration to show how necessary and important it is for a woman to obey her husband. It is impermissible to prostrate to anyone except Allah, but if it were permissible, it would only be permissible to bow to the husband.[6]
4. Pleasing the husband
A woman who leaves this world in the state that her husband was pleased with her will enter Paradise.[7]
Imam al-Dhahabī رَحْمَةُ الـلّٰـهِ عَلَيْه states regarding this Hadith, “It is necessary for a wife to please her husband and avoid displeasing him.”[8]
May Allah grant us the ability to act upon the rulings of Islam. May He grant spouses the ability to love each other wholeheartedly whilst also fulfilling each other’s rights.
اٰمِیْن بِجَاہِ خاتَمِ النَّبِیّیْن صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
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