Women’s Corner
Mufti Fuzayl Raza ‘Attari
Wife checking husband’s phone without his permission
Q: What do the noble scholars ordain about this matter: Can a wife check her husband’s phone and messages without his permission to check who he is speaking with?
بِسْمِ اللّٰہِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِیْمِ
اَلْجَوَابُ بِعَوْنِ الْمَلِکِ الْوَھَّابِ اَللّٰھُمَّ ھِدَایَۃَ الْحَقِّ وَالصَّوَابِ
The relationship between a husband and wife is extremely delicate and is grounded in trust. If mutual trust endures, the relationship stays firm and secure. Without trust, the relationship begins to deteriorate. Suspicion in small matters and spying on each other’s private matters can be detrimental. A couple must refrain from this if they wish to preserve their bond. In regard to the question, a wife cannot check her husband’s mobile without his permission. There are many reasons for this:
1. To read someone’s messages without a pressing need and without their consent is impermissible.
2. This action is a matter of interfering in a Muslim’s private affairs. This is also impermissible.
3. This is an act of suspicion against a fellow Muslim, which is haram.
وَاللہُ اَعْلَمُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ وَ رَسُوْلُہٗ اَعْلَم صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
Widow spending the rest of her sitting period (ʿidda) at her parent’s home to avoid disputes with mother-in-law
Q: What do the noble scholars ordain about this matter: Can a widow, who is not pregnant, spend the rest of her sitting period at her parent’s home to avoid disputes with her mother-in-law?
بِسْمِ اللّٰہِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِیْمِ
اَلْجَوَابُ بِعَوْنِ الْمَلِکِ الْوَھَّابِ اَللّٰھُمَّ ھِدَایَۃَ الْحَقِّ وَالصَّوَابِ
In this scenario, it is impermissible for the widow to complete the sitting period at her parent’s home. It is obligatory for her to spend all the days of this period in the home where she lived with her husband prior to his death. If she is not pregnant, her sitting period is 4 months and 10 days. It is impermissible for her to leave the home during this time to spend her sitting period elsewhere, as disputes with the mother-in-law are not considered a valid excuse to make an exception here. She should avoid confrontation with her mother-in-law, and if the latter initiates a hostile situation, she should adopt patience and silence.
وَاللہُ اَعْلَمُ عَزَّوَجَلَّ وَ رَسُوْلُہٗ اَعْلَم صلَّی اللہ علیہ واٰلہٖ وسلَّم
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